3 Reasons Why Your Lifestyle is The Enemy of Yourself

    

         Seems familiar? If it is, then maybe you can relate to this kind of lifestyle. And now you're stuck thinking that you don't have any other choice but to stick with it. But let me ask you a question, have you ever REALLY asked yourself how to get out of it? Okay, let's talk about it.

        Over a couple of years ago, I reached the point of life when I told myself that "I don't know what's next." I was stuck, confused about where my path was taking me. I was living a monotonous life. I wake up, go to work, eat, and go home. And repeat the same cycle the next day. Sure, I go out with friends sometimes. Sometimes, with family. But I knew back then; there was a missing piece in the puzzle. It wasn't a simple nor minimalist lifestyle. It was an exhausting and stagnant one.

       At first, I thought I wasn't happy with what I was doing, but it wasn't. So I came up with this conclusion: Even though I see a glimpse of happiness inside the box, it doesn't mean I should stay there. I wasn't joyful with what I was doing(even now, tbh). And joy is what will sustain us. Therefore, I needed to find my passion. Did I find it? Well, no. I've put it aside for a very long time because I wasn't sure what my passion was. And that was all because I was too sluggish to assess myself and start dealing with my problems. If you can also relate to that, I want to share these three reasons why your lifestyle is the enemy of yourself.

3 Reasons Why Your Lifestyle is The Enemy of Yourself

• You Don't Actually Care

You have all these complaints in life that you are not happy, and you cannot find hope, and life's probably not for you. But you actually don't care. Because if you do, you're not gonna let yourself be stuck with all those complaints. In fact, you will start trying to solve the problems.

Now you say, "You don't understand." Okay, I don't. I already know that, which leads me to our next reason.

• You Make Too Many Excuses

    "You don't understand my life," "You don't know my situation," "I don't have the same privileges as you have." I know. And, perhaps, I wouldn't understand you(like ever.) Besides, we have different life situations, personalities, perspectives, and responsibilities. But while I acknowledge that those statements are true, I still believe that you can find a solution to your problem.

I want you to realize that all your excuses are part of the problem you need to solve. You need to start solving the problem by eliminating those excuses. So get a pen and a paper, write it down, don't lie down, and start solving them one by one.

"all your excuses are part of the problem that you need to solve"

• You Are Making Poor Choices

By saying "I don't have a choice" is a poor choice. You're already saying NO to all the possible opportunities out there. I am currently working for a job I never thought of doing. It was never my preference. But I am here because a year ago, I did not have any choice. And I can defend it at that time, but not anymore because TIME has changed A LOT of things. Not even a year into my job, and I started seeing different possible opportunities. I just chose not to take them and stayed inside my comfort zone.

The key here is assessing yourself, your community, and all the resources available out there to find opportunities for yourself. Because You. Have. A. Choice. It's either you choose to be stuck right where you are. Or choose to intentionally seek better options in life.

"By saying "I don't have a choice" is a poor choice."

A lot of people wouldn't start anything even after facing all their truthful realizations. Because let's be honest here, we all want instant gratification. However, I found out that it could be easier to start doing the actual work than creating a perfect system or process to do it. You might give up on making it before even getting to do the actual work. So take one of your problems and solve it today. Here's an example:

 

For the longest time, I became very unproductive. And after my shift at work, I always feel like I can't do anything anymore. I'm already too exhausted and feel entitled to lie down and watch Netflix for the rest of the day. Guess what happened? I've got a long list of extra tasks to do, and I was waaaay behind my bible reading plan.

 

Excuse: I worked hard today, and already I'm exhausted. I can't ditch work $$$

Solution: So I decided to sleep early and wake up earlier the next day

 

        I've been doing this for about a week now. I wake myself up at five or six in the morning with some body-stretching, followed by my bible reading. Afterward, I eat my breakfast and list down the things I need to do for the rest of the day. If there are other things that would require a lot of my focus, I will try to do them before I start working.

      I started with one thing here. I did it right away. I intentionally started sleeping early to wake up earlier because I can do more things before my job takes all my energy away. All other things followed after. Just solve one problem first and see how other things will follow.